By / murphybj4
Never, ever kidnap and stifle each other’s space for growth in the name of love; the tighter you hold on, the faster you’ll lose everything.
So many people commit emotionally hurtful acts in the name of love. (Photo / Alex Iby on Unsplash)
We often hear about toxic relationship dynamics where two people cling to each other with nothing but the phrase “but I still love her,” which ends up kidnapping the space and potential for both individuals to grow.
Overlapping social circles are crucial for couples. (Photo / Christiana Rivers on Unsplash)
Many couples have no overlap in their lives—one suppresses their emotions and restricts the other’s social freedom, while the other grows tired of the monotonous routine yet can’t offer the sense of security needed. As a result, constant pulling, arguing, and fighting ensue.
Love can sometimes be like quicksand—the tighter you grasp, the faster it slips away. (Photo / Christiana Rivers on Unsplash)
Many couples rely on the longing created by brief separations to sustain their relationship. But when these separations lead to constant fights upon reunion, and this cycle repeats, it becomes like the painful withdrawal symptoms of addiction—hard to break, because the thought “but I still love her” keeps creeping in, ultimately stifling each other’s space for growth.
Maintaining a relationship should never rely solely on the longing that comes from separation. (Photo / Brooke Cagle on Unsplash)
When a relationship becomes one where one plus one equals less than two, it loses its very meaning. Two people together should not only grow together but also move in the same direction to stand a chance at lasting. If being together makes you forget even what happiness feels like, then what’s the point of love—even if it exists?
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